The DADDY Bond

A lot has been said and written about the intimate bond between parents and their child. For parents it is the urge to protect and nourish our little one and for a child it is a sense of security and positive self esteem. Mummies have breast-feeding and the maternal instincts as an advantage in the process of bonding. Though the nurturing instincts of dads are slower then mums they can form strong bonding attachment to their children.
There are differences in the bond that a child has with the father and the mother.
A father’s bonding with his child develops when he realizes that he is not a substitute for the mum. The key point of fathering is play. Dads have a more playful interactive style which suits the personality of the child to develop strong social relationships. The toddler age usually strengthens the DADDY bond when your child begins to talk and relate to people. Getting involved in the routine activities lets the baby get used to your voice and scent and feels comforted and closer to you. The magic formula in the DADDY is they bring themselves down to the child’s level and avoid criticism. The daddy’s open ended questions make the child think creatively and explore opportunities.
The DADDY bond spells itself distinctively for little girls attached to their father. Although it can be stressful for the mum and the girls when Daddy is away, it teaches some good lessons. Children learn that even though people leave, they return. There is fear in a child that you won’t return. Also, it teaches them to adapt. The first week of Dad’s absence- the children fight and they need your attention all the time. The second week gets better and they are not clingy. The mum has to realize-something normal can cause havoc for a child. As a parent your responsibility is to remind them that they are loved and they can manage changes easier.
For fathers, breaking free of assumptions about “who and what” they are in the parental mix means the joy and satisfaction of more--and continuing--participation in shaping their daughter's lives.
When it comes to raising happy and confident young women, "parent" is now an equal opportunity position.

Bringing up children

Raising a child is a 24 hour job. It is tough due to inexperience. There are drastic changes to your life-style after the arrival of your child. One has never received a formal training for such a responsible job. A school or college cannot teach you the in-depth experience of bringing up children. The bringing-up pattern you adopted could be techniques used by your parents in bringing you up and how you mould your instinctive pattern and your partners influence in bringing up your child. Work-life balance, financial pressure, discipline, children’s safety are the major reasons why parenting has become more difficult. As a parent, you are the most influential role model. When we offer our unconditional love, it is important to emphasize on a set of expectations from the start. The values that we instill in our children will later be the foundation of the decisions that they will make when they mature to adulthood. Values are taught at home first. Discipline demands consistency and ensures acceptable behavior in the wider society. It is essential to discuss the possible options and consequences openly and the child should be encouraged to participate in the discussion and decisions. This could probably help the child in being a more balanced individual and also learn the rules of communication